Just the last line proves my point yesterday

How the produce aisle looks to a migrant farmworker http://www.pri.org/stories/2015-02-04/how-produce-aisle-looks-migrant-farmworker

Up and above?

Inequality is a way of life in the Indian eco system. Born out of our inherent lack of respect for people in general.  You can not cross the roads as the zooming cars give you the look as if you are little more than vermin.  You're likely to be pushed around n chided at even if you were Mukesh Ambani in rags n minus his million dollar business. A senior shall always treat his subordinates as filth, or a tiny notch better. All because he assumes himself to be above. Honey the levels we feel so proud of are just in our heads.
Someone keeps telling me. "It's not rocket science".  Well sir,  nothing really is.  And yet you cannot stitch a shoe like a cobbler,  sweep the floors like a sweeper or build homes like the mason.
How can we be a great nation when the people living in it are so full of ego and conceit. And There is no room for harmony and learning. Or let us put it this way since we care least bout the nation and are more concerned bout the self.  How can you be a good person when spend so much energy in demeaning people whose worth you know not.
Smiles are precious. Spread them.

Women in India

From pink rickshaws to pink Passbook, we have done it all to save the beti, secure the bahu and safeguard the behen . But each step does a little more than establish the gender divide  and discrimination.  Face it India will always love the son more.  Man even my hindi spell check on this Chinese phone suggests the word beta so the first option as I type beti probably they know where I live. Yes anyways so here we are turning everything pink but not lifting one finger at the smug son.  Not one step to ensure the guilty is punished. Not one step to show strongly to the male the right n the wrong.  Not one step focused on the men of the nation.  Y? After all its their doing.  You can train a 100000 women n get nowhere till u teach a thousand men to love n respect women.  You can teach a thousand girls how to  fight but they won't win till we have a law which says a no go the men(bold,  underlined and enlarged).  We need laws that make men afraid enough to respect. Everything else that we do is a consolation to ourselves and a disrespect to every woman in the country.  Women are not weak.  The law is.

Why Run?

take the day at a ease, read a book, sit back and relax. but yeah well life's not always that happy, but one can always take a day off, look around and appreciate life for what it is... So looking around at nature at its best at Udaipur, Rajasthan I wonder if I will miss this place, and I sigh I will ... The wonderful dream of that cosy home, a swing shaded by trees, with the sun filtering through and the sweet spring breeze brings home contentment. Don't we all dream so, only a few ever come true, amid the crazy race within the suburbs of New Delhi, India.. the entire human races seems to have many compromises from good old homes to shiny small apartments  from swings n books to smart phones and the internet, from the quite life of farms and the country to the bustle of the cosmopolitan. How far has the shift truly made us happy is the question still unanswered

music memories

Its quite a thing to realize how the brilliance of the human mind works. Every tiny detail gets connected to each other forming a web of memories.
Music for instance is a constant reminder of the places, people and time. Perfumes are the direct connect to people and their memories. Its as if the magic of those moments remain trapped within each syllable of the song and every wiff of the smell... That friends is our true and our very own time turner, You may never recreate that moment but you might as well recreate the vibes if you so wish.

Dear girls

When they said men are from mars, they meant no joke you know. The sooner you Venusians get that the happier would life be on Earth, The secret mantra which we mostly tend to overlook is : He is a Martian and you are not, He is alien to you. While that is the reason you are together , that reason may not be just as happy always. Knowing practically everything happening between at least a dozen couples till this hour, All I can suggest is: know what he is. And know this: He is NOT the world to you, coz he simply doesn’t want to be, however you might expect to raise him to that pedestal, he shall never be prepared to, no man has ever been. So better keep his backups planned well in advance. Froms books ,to shopping, to the silliest of soap serials – all work really well, quite easy to substitute really for the short crises .

Wat next

Dear Designs….

You are spread all over my room, you are the reason I have not been out of this place for the past 12 odd, you ae the result of a lot of prior research n a look at cool stuff….

But y o y don’t I still like u .. y am I typing this while I sud b working… there is a “huge” pile of work piled up over the last weeks….

Where is my show picture perfect paisley???? 

"Road is hilly, don’t be silly

No race, no rally, enjoy the beauty of the valley

This is a highway, not a runway

Be soft on my curves

If married, divorce speed

Faster will see disaster

Slow drive, long life

Fast won’t last

No need for over speed

Speed thrills but kills

Hurry makes worry

Arrive home in peace not in pieces"

 courtesy : "http://chaipilgrimage.com/"

Shave or crave

This post is a part of  http://blog.blogadda.com/2012/12/13/shave-or-crave-blogger-contest-paris-trip

This post is a part of the <a href="https://apps.facebook.com/425290917524532/?fb_source=search&ref=ts&fref=ts" title="Shave or Crave" target="_blank">'Shave or Crave'</a> movement in association with <a href="http://www.blogadda.com" title="The biggest community of Indian Bloggers" target="_blank">BlogAdda.com</a>

Well, its quite a blogging question aint it... shave or crave???

Originality has no compitition, and I believe a man is at his best while he is original. and while I love him all that eternally, shave or no shave hardly matters. and its quite an experience to witness that progress towards a stubble and back. Its like being a part of everything about him. Its about loving every facet.

But yea if I am really keen on it and bent to keep the stubble out... I have my ways ;)
NO shave =
1. NO KISSES
2. No cozy together movie watching evenings
3. U R not meeting my mom ... or SISTERS and FRIENDS ;) <poor u>
4. My next gift to u is a shaving kit <jeez no1 gifts that to my dad nemore so u better be quite ashamed of urself>
5. Next to that if u r still on ur way to grow that forest on ur face : I buy u a anti lice shampoo as well

End of close

life brings with itself its end, and each day inches to its close. Death itself is not sad, it is the mark of an end. The finishing line, the buzz reminding the end of time. But for a person having lived to the fullest, it is the final completion. Another achievement, He worked, he played, he loved and he died. What is sad however are the circumstances shrouding it : the tears, the heartbreaks, the absence and the unsaid.
If there is anything after now , I wish you well, nevertheless i shall remember you well
Love you Nanu (dadua)

Loneliness is at times a bliss... Alone in this picturesque frame that was my liberating statement to avoid missing company. But on second thought that statement might just b true. spending quality time with yourself might be just what one needs to see things clearly, to realize the worth of the people around, to appreciate life. 

From shiva

"Hate is not the opposite of love. Hate is love gone bad. The real opposite of love is Indifference"

Well said Shiva..... The stronger the hatred the stronger is the attachment. Only in detachment is real peace, vengeance or sacrifice.

Bartering Happiness for....

A lot of Gives and takes make it happen. Give what you want to take that is the only assurance of getting it your way. No relation can survive on its own it requires both ends to make a voluntary effort to keep it together...to keep the magic ALIVE.
The world works that way. and so does the society and even personal relations...... At the end of the day eachone barters a smile for a smaile

A patriotic post

One of those nights with endless coffees...and ... ahem.... so TOI blogs are actually good i discovered.... and i came across this:

Life in Delhi - with smog, without water - expecting reforms Veeresh Malik 

08 November 2012, 09:32 AM IST

http://blogs.timesofindia.indiatimes.com/Diary-of-a-Divorced-Delhi-Male/entry/life-in-delhi-smog-and-waterless

and a reply to this went on the lines of  "instead of complaing move over to a civilised country. if this is not possible move over to dubai, abu dhabi. things will get worse in all indian cities. i have worked for good environment in delhi. it was hopeless. sheila dixit is a corrupt old woman hanging on to power..." 

and so forth

And I really really wish to react:

When one fine evening you realize your room's gone messy what do you do?? move over to your neighbor's immaculate abode???  

I understand looking for best opportunities but relocating to a new nation just because yours is not livable anymore???? That's disgraceful.  How is that such people even consider themselves civilized??? Civilization is about building societies, about establishing prosperity.... this treacherous thought is one fitting the stone age perhaps....

Are you "in"?

A dilemma?
Are you up the pathway from "Interfering" to "Indifferent" to "ignoring".... Confusing how people react. I had someone discuss a rather curios situation. When you talk a lot bout her she takes it as interfering, talk less and you move to being indifferent and are supposedly ignoring her. What is a poor soul supposed to do exactly??.... Never really got across the "space" issue between people who are together, like together together.... I mean live single and have all the space you want,(with the current population crisis, that is quite a challenge in itself). But really if space is what you desire why even have a partner???
Any how strange how the mind works at time eh??

Identity

Is it something one ought to lose to get along with someone? Compromises though necessary are not free as it may seem.  It's like filling a tank one drop at a time, which when over glows takes one along n down under. 

A moment

Moments are points in the ever progressing procession of time. Never ending never stopping. Moments are what makes us, our lives, our memories, our existence. One of the many things that sets us humans apart is the wondrous ability to remember, to carry forth an assimilation of the past and the present into our tomorrows. One moment that we share today will pass for sure, but what shall remain forever etched is its memories. Some extended moments we are destined to share with people we learn to love, and then the moment passes and one moves on to the next moment. Neither too good or to bad on its own, just another moment to live and make most of. People who come together to a moment finally close stage in each other's memories. So before you act today think what the memory would be like tomorrow. Adieus. 

when you lose to gain

A loss might at times gain a lot more than one might expect. To fall is not necessarily to go down, to fall never calls for utter pessimism. When you fall in love with the right person, you rise. When you lose yourself to get the best in you. When you give up on yourself and find yourself at the pinnacle of someones' unceasing compassion. 

Fillers

Some moments catch you off guard and sweep you to the center of a hurricane of emptiness. Those are the times you lack "fillers" in your life. Priorities need be thought of. Work Family you name the list and yet you find those blank interstices when you got nothing

too much testerone

its true men are from mars and women from venus... and when it comes to putting up with aliens man is it a horrendous task. Possible.. even happy but not for long...and certainly never forever...